How To Be A Rockstar 101, Lesson 1

This will begin my series on how to be a rockstar. Hang with me, I am flying by the seat of my pants here...

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

The first and possibly hardest step is to believe in yourself. I have been blogging for about 2 years now about personal development; yours, mine and ours. That's right personal development is about everyone, not just me and not just you. We ALL need to hop on board the PD train. Why? Because life has a way of taking its toll. The GOAL of your SOUL is to be better because of those things...not to let them beat you down.

I have been to the worst of worse places. Hell. You probably have too. We all have a personal hell. HOWEVER, we always have 2 choices. We can choose to be angry, resentful, bitter, depressed, consumed, destructive and depleted...OR...we can choose to get creative, rebuild, heal, forgive, let go, move on, stand up, love and regenerate.

Making the second choice is really, really, really hard work. In fact, it is often difficult to know where to start. It took me years to find the starting place. My heart was all over the map, smashed to smithereens, and I was literally finding little pieces of me all over the place. It took me about two years to pick them all up, and I still find little bits every once in awhile. Thats why I like God, He never forgets the little piece of you that got stuck under the refrigerator. Someway, somehow...He will show you what happened to that little piece.

So back to lesson 1. Where do you start? How do you take the first step to being a rockstar? Well, get a note pad and start writing things down. Take a writing utensil and just start writing...it doesn't matter about what. If you are mad, right about being mad. Tell that notepad what you want, and how your life should look. Sometimes its a good idea to take a long walk, and then sit down and just let your pen flow and write anything that comes out. Do this for a few days or a few weeks, until your pen gets tired. Until you have no more words to let out. When you are ready to be more constructive in your writing, then start making lists under these labels:

Health
Wealth
Realtionships
Creativity/Inner Child
Helpful People
Spirituality/Knowledge
Family
Fame
Career

Write your goals under these lists. Start with long term goals and think backwards. For example start with 7 years from now, what will your ideal health be like? Then 5 years, then 3, then 6 months from now. You will find that you will find a starting place by accepting what your long term goals are.

This can be a difficult process. Most people do not like to write. It is even more difficult to come to terms with your subconscious. If you need help, feel free to contact me. I am constantly revisiting this process. In fact, I will do it with you side-by-side.

Here is my e-mail addy. If you need assistance, please feel free to contact me.
imaginaryrockstar@hotmail.com

This Shit is Bananas - B-A-N-A-N-A-S

All hail Gwen Stafani, Goddess of sexy platinum blonde female vocalists. I've been listening to her music this week to find songs to add to our playlist and I bow to her greatness. Being a sexpot is NOT easy. She rocks it hard. "This shit is BANANAS!" lmao

Christmas is almost here and I've gotten my present from the Universe. I received a partner. I now have someone who listens to my ideas, can have normal (constructive) conversations, has an ego but knows when to leave it on the doorstep and allow creativity to flow. This guy, Andy Long, is the BOMB. He is now my closest friend, business partner and so much more.

Andy built a whole set of backup tracks (bass, drums, keyboards and vocals) in a WEEK. Some of our songs won't require back-ups, some are simple and straight-forward and others are pretty complex. He is ever patient and just keeps plugging away. Now we are starting set 2 and my job is to start putting together a press package. (Hmmm, wonder if I can find samples on the internet?)

Anyway, I am loving life right now. Bringing in some money would be excellent!

Networking

In my journey I have discovered networking. Personally I despise that word because to me it triggers flashbacks of my MLM fiascos and online marketing of cheesey websites. But networking is a valid tool in your daily life no matter who you are or what you do. Networking is making friends. Being sincere, shaking hands, asking questions, getting involved, listening, communicating and being grateful. In my younger years I was NOT a good networker. Mostly because I had no self-esteem. I did not think I had anything to offer. What I labeled as "shy" was actually an inability to present myself as a useful member of society.

In Feng Shui, one of the seven components of wholeness is "helpful people". Every relationship you have contributes to your life in some way, even if it is just a grocery store clerk or bank teller. Of course it is difficult to actually consider these "relationships" but if you pull back and see the broader vision you start realizing that we all need each other, we all bring something to the table, each person offers an opportunity to learn/grow/help/bring joy/fill-in-the-blank.

So let me tie this up so it makes sense. Networking = Helpful People = Opportunity

Take the time to give thanks for all the people in your life. Bless each one, even the ones who make you angry or disappoint you. As an experiment, give thanks for those challenging people, and see what happens.

Some relationships fail. (in our mind's eye) Some opportunities fall through. Do not let these facts sway you from the truth. We are all one. We need each other. Salesmen need customers. Doctors need patients. Teachers need students. Rockstars need an audience.

Taking Things Personally

This has been a bad week. Not just for me, but for a lot of people. I won't go into a lot of detail here about my situation, but the point I'd like to make is that when bad things happen I tend to take them very personally. I'd like to get over that hump. This time around I really beat myself up. I felt stupid and foolish. I let someone use me and spit me out, they didn't even care about my feelings or what vulnerable position they put me in. I just kept kicking myself over and over, how could I allow that to happen after all the work I have done to heal and get smarter and better? I felt a sickness inside because I was so angry. I don't get angry with people, I get angry with myself. Which is worse?

You know why I was angry? Because I followed my dream of something I wanted really bad...so bad I could taste it, and it failed. I was literally on a high the entire month of November because everything I ever wanted was coming true, like a Cinderella story. In December most of it fell apart. Its like I have this thing inside me that won't allow my goals to manifest. Is that right? Is my subconscious still sabotaging me? If so, that really sucks!

Anyway, long story short, I still have some wonderful and amazing people in my life. People who care what happens to me, despite the assholes who don't. I guess there will always be someone who tries to bring you down, so I better get used to that and stop beating myself up. I want to thank Andy, Darrel, Megan and Rita for being there for me the past few days and offering me a shoulder and strength when I needed it. Oh, and my Mom too, thanks Mom.