Sometimes People Leave

In each person's life there are patterns. Look for the patterns in your life and you will start to see that there are life lessons to be learned in those patterns.

One of my patterns is that people often leave. I have experienced a lot of death in my life, and I have also have had very close friends who just decide it is time to walk away. This has been very hurtful and damaging to me in the past, but I am learning now how to just let go and send those people on their way with my blessing. This has not been easy for me.

It is true that people come into your life for a reason. Sometimes we meet a person who we think is the love of our life or our BFF and the relationship ends abruptly or without explanation. What do you do then? I have spent YEARS of my life dissecting these "why's" and I have come to realize, it is simply not worth it. What a waste of time. Sometimes people leave. Period. Our job is to love them anyway and move on with our lives. There are only 6 trillion other people on this planet you can meet. My downfall in the past has always been my thought pattern of "oh woe is me, I'll never find another person like so-and-so" and I would lament the loss for years and years, often re-living the pain and putting myself through torture wondering what went wrong. Then when I would meet someone new, I would often wonder, "how long until this one leaves?..." and I would never fully enjoy the relationship and the pattern would start all over again.

So STOP IT.

Sometimes people leave. Sometimes I leave. It happens. We all grow, we all expand, we all venture out, and we all die. There are no guarantees, and it is ok to grieve a loss for a period of time, but we are all meant to move on and go forward with our lives.

I am not trying to be harsh. I know there are circumstances where death and abandonment are horrible experiences. I cannot lay a blanket judgement on all of mankind because I do understand that separation is a sad thing. But of late I have found that many of my friends are pulling away from me, friends who said they would be there for me forever, no matter what. Guess what? They were wrong, but thats okay. I love them no matter where they go or what they do. You don't have to be by my side for me to love you. You don't have to love me back in order for me to love you. I have spent a period of sadness over this loss, but I will move on and my love for you will not change. In truth, I have not lost at all, because your spirit still exists and you will always have a piece of me with you even though you have walked away from me.

Thank you for being an important part of my life, I'm sorry you feel it is time to move on, but I understand and I will be okay.

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